Roles in dating
See what an unsatisfying bumper-sticker treatment that was? Among the different roles assigned to men and women in the Bible, men are assigned the role of leadership. This is not a signal of male superiority or of the greater importance of men.
It is simply God's design and assignment of equally valuable roles among spiritually equal beings. Briefly, biblical support for this position is found, among other passages, in the creation order in Genesis 2, in 1 Corinthians 11: 7-9, and Ephesians 5.
All singles who profess Christ and aspire to marriage — even as a possibility — have this responsibility (even outside this area of life, we should all be trying to grow in Christ). If you're already sure of that basic answer, are you a growing and mature Christian?
Are you generally humble and teachable, and do you respect authority?
As a dating coach, I often explain the roles each gender plays in dating.
Let me start by saying that I define dating as only the first 4 - 10 dates depending on the couple.
As a woman, your role is to be warm, friendly, and enjoyable.
If you like him, make him feel good because men choose women who make them feel good about themselves. Let him know you appreciate his choice of restaurant or wine selection.
I have named my theory on gender roles "The Yin Yang Theory of Dating". It's made of two paisley-shaped pieces that fit together to make a greater whole – the circle.
In my view, if you can't happily picture yourself married within a year, you're not in a position to date.
Third, once you decide that you are ready to date, look to God's Word to decide the kind of person to date, and evaluate potential dating partners on those criteria, rather than relying primarily on the world's treatment of ideas like "attraction" and "chemistry." I wrote at some length on this in my article, "Brother, You're Like a Six." For you busy singles with time for only one mildly irritating column per day, the summary is this: Pick a potential dating partner with an eye toward godly manhood and womanhood — with an eye toward who would make a good husband or wife, defined by those characteristics esteems in His Word, not the ones Hollywood likes.
I have found that strong, independent woman tend to want to get the ball rolling in the relationship area, just like you do in business.
You want to get his digits, ask him out, email him, buy tickets to events, and follow up when he doesn't call after the first date to find out why.